Five lessons about love from President and Mrs. Obama
Why saying I love you matters—with insights from President and Mrs. Obama.
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Happy 33rd wedding anniversary to the Obamas
On Oct. 3, the Obamas celebrate another year of marriage—not just a milestone since their 1992 “I do,” but a masterclass in love that lasts. Their relationship shows us that no matter who you are, showing up for your partner—loudly, proudly, and often—can result in an enduring love.
Be your partner’s best friend.
“ For the past 25 years, you've not only been my wife and the mother of my children, you've been my best friend. You took on a role you didn't ask for and you made it your own with grace, grit and style.”
–President Obama
During his farewell speech on Jan. 10, 2017 at McCormick Place convention center in Chicago, President Obama teared up as he thanked Former First Lady Michelle Obama for her service and impact at the White House.
Appreciate what they bring to the relationship.
Offer respect through the highs and lows of love.
“ It’s so important to marry somebody that you respect. It’s important to marry somebody who is your equal, and to marry somebody, and to be with somebody who wants you to win as much as you want them to win.”
–Former First Lady Michelle Obama
Mrs. Obama mentioned this to Gayle King at the 2019 Essence Festival in New Orleans, during a candid conversation about the realities of life, health, and marriage post-White House.
Say what you feel––as often as possible.
“ She is just my rock, and I count on her in so many ways every single day.”
–President Obama
In a 2011 interview with Oprah Winfrey on her show, President Obama emphasized that love and respect are the foundation of a strong marriage. He and Mrs. Obama discussed their relationship, life together, and experiences in the White House.
Listen and be present.
“ There's no doubt I'm a better man having spent time with Michelle. I would never say that Michelle's a better woman, but I will say she's a little more patient.”
–President Obama
President Obama told Vogue in a 2013 interview how his and Mrs. Obama’s relationship continues to shape him, underscoring the value of mutual growth, patience, and showing up for each other each day.
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